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当你大概想表达的观点：
我们有很多不好的语言习惯需要摒弃。
【你可以直接思考有哪些语言习惯需要摒弃，比如说别人坏话、太过消极、找借口、夸大其词等等，尽可能展开描述】
不会组织语言的人说的：
We have some bad talking habits. We really need to change them.
First, some people like to say bad of others. They talk about others when they are not around. It's not a nice thing to do.
Second, some are too negative. They always complain about everything. That's not a good habit to let people listen to you.
Third, lying is also terrible. We need to be honest. So that people will like to listen to us.
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来源TED How to speak so that people want to listen.
当你大概想表达的意思会组织语言的人说的单词/词组
我们有很多不好的语言习惯需要摒弃。
There are a number of bad speaking habits that we need to move away from.
我们有很多不好的语言习惯需要摒弃。
说闲话
First, gossip. Speaking ill of somebody who's not present. Not a nice habit, and we know perfectly well the person gossiping, five minutes later, will be gossiping about us.
第一，说闲话。在背后说不在场的人的坏话。这可不是个好习惯，而且我们心里很清楚，那个说别人闲话的人，五分钟后可能就在说我们的闲话了。
gossip /ˈɡɒsɪp/v. 说闲话，闲聊；传播流言蜚语 n. 流言蜚语，小道消息；爱说长道短的人
“speaking ill of” 表示 “说…… 的坏话”
批判
Second, judging. We know people who are like this in conversation, and it's very hard to listen to somebody if you know that you're being judged and found wanting at the same time.
第二，评判。我们都知道有些人在谈话中就是这样，如果你知道自己正在被评判，并且被认为有所欠缺，那你就很难认真听对方说话。
wanting /ˈwɒntɪŋ/adj. 缺乏的；欠缺的；不够格的 此处 “found wanting” 表示 “被认为有所欠缺”
消极
Third, negativity. It's hard to listen when somebody's too negative.
第三，消极。当一个人过于消极时，真的很难让人听下去。
negativity /ˌnekəˈtɪvəti/n. 消极性；否定性；负面性
抱怨
And another form of negativity, complaining. Actually, complaining is viral misery. It's not spreading sunshine and lightness in the world.
消极的另一种表现形式是抱怨。实际上，抱怨就像会传染的痛苦，它并不能给世界带来阳光和轻松。
找借口
Excuses. 找借口。
We've all met this guy. Maybe we've all been this guy. Some people have a blamethrower. They just pass it on to everybody else and don't take responsibility for their actions, and again, hard to listen to somebody who is being like that.
我们都遇到过这样的人，也许我们自己也做过这样的人。有些人就像 “甩锅侠”，他们只会把责任推给别人，而不对自己的行为负责。同样，听这样的人说话真的很难受。
blamethrower /ˈbleɪmθrəʊə(r)/n. （非正式）喜欢推卸责任的人（这里意译为 “甩锅侠” ）
夸大其词
Exaggeration. 夸大其词。
Sometimes exaggeration becomes lying, and we don't want to listen to people we know are lying to us.
有时候夸大其词就会变成说谎，而我们可不想听那些我们知道在对我们说谎的人说话。
exaggeration /ɪɡˌzædʒəˈreɪʃn/n. 夸张，夸大；夸张的言语（或行为）
教条主义
（盲目地遵循既有的原则、理论、学说或权威观点，固执己见）
And finally, dogmatism. The confusion of facts with opinions. When those two things get conflated, you're listening into the wind. You know, somebody is bombarding you with their opinions as if they were true. It's difficult to listen to that.
最后，教条主义（固执己见）。把事实和观点混为一谈。当这两者被混淆时，你就像在听风说话。你知道的，有人用他们的观点狂轰滥炸你，仿佛那些观点就是真理。听那样的话可真不容易。